In the fall of 1970 I moved into the East Village of Manhattan to run a residential shelter for runaway kids. For a small town Texas boy there was more than a little culture shock. But I loved the gritty … Read the rest
Several common interactional patterns which couples use to solve relationship challenges often yield disappointing and frustrating results. In the “distancing and pursuing” pattern, one person wants more connection and moves toward their partner (initiates sex, starts an argument, criticizes them). … Read the rest
Yep. I think you’ve co-created your relationship reality with your partner. There’s no good guys/bad guys in marriage, just folks trying to get through the day. It’s like a dance you’ve learned over time to do together. On the dance … Read the rest
What does it mean to accept yourself? Just as you are. As is? Maybe you were lucky, born into a family of accepting adults and siblings and relatives and neighbors. Or, maybe, you were like most of us, born into … Read the rest
1. Act as if you already have it!
Observe people who appear to be confident. Notice what they are doing. They may be throwing their shoulders back, standing tall, dressing neatly, acting friendly to the people they meet. Your … Read the rest